THE MOST CRUCIAL QUESTION OF YOUR LIFE

If I ask you, "What do you need out of life?"  You may say something like, "I want to be cheerful and have an awesome family and the kind of work I like." We've heard this again and again. Such a question is becoming more and more meaningless.

Here is a more intriguing inquiry, an inquiry that maybe you've never considered: "What kind of burden do you want to bear in your life?"  Put differently, "What are you willing to battle for?" Such a question is by all accounts a more noteworthy determinant of how our lives turn out.

Everyone needs to have a wonderful job and ample freedom — yet only very few are ready to pay the price. Individuals need to be rich without the required pains, without the rigors, without the calculated efforts needed to amass riches.  Everyone longs for a perfect relationship, but only few people are willing to experience the intense discussions, the cumbersome quiets, the scorching sentiments and the passionate psychodrama that spring up in relationships. At the center of all human conduct, our necessities are pretty much comparable. Positive experience is easy to deal with; It's negative experience that we as a whole, by definition, battle with. But what drives us ultimately in life is not the good feelings, but rather, those terrible emotions we try to avoid.

What decides your prosperity isn't "What would I like to enjoy?" Rather, it is, "What kind of torment would I like to maintain?" The nature of your life is not dictated by the nature of your positive encounters, but by the nature of your negative encounters. Look back at your past, and you'll find this to be true.
 What's more, if you can manage negative encounters,  you can manage your life. Positive emotions are good, but negative ones are equally necessary. Ask yourself, "How do I come out of this situation," and answers will come. The more you are able to work your self out of a challenge, the better you get in life. So ask yourself, "What challenge am I willing to take up today?"